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Couples Counseling
Are You Struggling to Stay Connected in Your Relationship?
Have you and your partner been feeling more like roommates than romantic partners? Are conversations turning into conflicts—or worse, into silence? Do you find yourself wondering how things got so distant, and whether you can ever truly get back what you once had? Maybe it feels like you're speaking two different languages, no longer able to bridge the growing divide. You might be dealing with a breakdown in communication, lack of intimacy, or recurring arguments that never seem to resolve.
Couples counseling can help address these painful patterns. Many partners come to therapy hoping to improve connection and communication but aren’t sure how to start. Whether you're married, dating, new parents, or navigating a major life transition, therapy offers a supportive space to unpack what's going on. Issues like trust concerns, parenting disagreements, and emotional distance can leave couples feeling disconnected and overwhelmed.
The good news is: You don’t have to stay stuck in this cycle. With the help of couples counseling and a trained Seattle marriage therapist, you can learn how to reconnect as a couple and feel close again.
Most Couples Face Bumps In The Road
Relationship challenges are far more common than most people think. Whether it’s caused by poor communication, unresolved trauma, or major life changes like having a baby or moving cities, these stressors can lead to breakdowns in intimacy and trust.
You're not alone in feeling this way. Every relationship has ups and downs. When two individuals with different backgrounds, experiences, and emotional needs come together, it’s natural for misunderstandings and tension to arise leading to attachment theory counseling being a supportive place to explore these tensions. Many couples seek therapy because they’re tired of the same arguments or because they feel like something important has gone missing and couples counseling attachment theory can provide a deeper look into these challenges with the support of a trained couples and marriage therapist.
Even couples who love each other deeply can struggle to express themselves, navigate conflict, or understand their partner’s emotional needs. That doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed—it means it’s time to learn new tools and strategies that work with the help of an attachment theory therapist. Couples counseling provides a safe and neutral place to explore these patterns without judgment, blame, or pressure.
The good news, however, is that with the help of a compassionate, experienced Seattle couples therapist, you can get back to feeling fulfilled and satisfied in your relationship.
Learn How to Rebuild Connection and Communicate More Effectively
Through couples counseling, Lumina Counseling supports partners in navigating the difficult dynamics that can build up over time with support from our Seattle marriage therapist. Whether you’re seeking to rebuild trust, resolve recurring conflict, or improve connection and communication, therapy provides a structured and non-judgmental space to do that work together with the support of an attachment theory therapist.
My approach is integrative and responsive to your needs. I often draw from Solution-Focused Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the Gottman Method, and attachment theory to guide our work. These models help you not only understand your patterns but also learn actionable tools for strengthening your relationship. If you’re looking for a therapist specializing in attachment styles, we will dive into exploring your different styles, how you show up and respond to each other, and how to feel more aligned and connected.
In our first session, we’ll start with a joint intake to learn more about your relationship history, current challenges, and goals. From there, I often meet with each partner individually for a portion of a session to better understand both perspectives and dynamics. Ongoing couples counseling sessions are typically held weekly and last around 50 minutes.
We’ll explore your communication style, identify unhelpful patterns, and practice new ways of relating. As a Seattle marriage therapist, I frequently provide exercises both in and outside of session to help you apply what you’re learning in real-time. Whether it’s increasing emotional safety, expressing appreciation, or tackling hard conversations with greater compassion, you’ll leave each session with tools to build momentum. Diving into attachment theory counseling is an optional path that can, at times, provide deeper understanding to how you show up with each other in your relationship.
If you're struggling with parenting disagreements, we’ll work on understanding each other’s parenting values. If disconnection is the main concern, we may focus on increasing intimacy, both emotionally and physically. If you need help with communication in your relationship, we’ll explore where the breakdown is happening and find solutions. If you’re looking for a therapist specializing in attachment styles, we’ll explore your different styles and the root of how you respond to each other. The goal of couples counseling is not to assign blame but to restore alignment and build a stronger, more connected partnership.
Over time, couples counseling helps you shift from reacting in frustration to responding with empathy. Instead of falling into the same conflicts, you’ll develop new scripts and strategies that foster understanding and closeness. This transformation doesn't happen overnight—but with commitment and support, it does happen, especially through the supportive space of relationship therapy for couples.
I’ve worked with couples from many different walks of life—married, dating, pre-marital, LGBTQ+, perinatal, and co-parenting pairs. My training as a licensed marriage and family therapist has given me a strong foundation in systems thinking and relationship dynamics which plays an integral part in couples counseling attachment theory. Over the past four years, I’ve supported many couples in creating meaningful, lasting change. As a Seattle couples therapist, I offer unbiased support where both partners feel seen, heard, and respected.
With consistent effort and guidance, couples often find they not only improve connection and receive help with communication in their relationship, but also rediscover joy and intimacy in their relationship. If you’re ready to invest in your relationship, I’m here to help as a trained couples and marriage therapist. Couples counseling or attachment theory counseling can be the turning point that brings you back together.
Lumina Counseling provides online couples therapy in Washington to increase accessibility and support with the guidance of an attachment theory therapist.
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Common Concerns About Starting Couples Counseling
What if my partner doesn’t want to come?
It’s common for one partner to feel more ready than the other to enter into relationship therapy for couples. If your partner is hesitant, you can encourage them to attend just one session and see how it feels to work with a trained couples and marriage therapist. Sometimes, just showing up can shift perspectives. If they're still unsure, individual therapy can be a starting point until they feel comfortable to start couples counseling or attachment theory counseling.
We’re so busy—what if we don’t have time?
I offer virtual weekday sessions, making it easier for busy couples to fit therapy into their routine with a supportive marriage therapist. Many of my clients appreciate the flexibility and comfort of meeting from home. Investing just 50 minutes a week can lead to significant changes in how you relate to one another.
Is it too late for us?
It’s never too late to seek support from a couples counselor or an attachment theory therapist. Many couples wait until things feel unbearable, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be repaired. I’ve worked with couples who were on the brink of separation and helped them find a path forward. If you’re both open to trying, change is possible.
Will we only focus on what’s wrong?
Not at all. While we will address pain points and challenges, couples counseling also helps you build on what’s working. I often highlight strengths, shared values, and moments of connection that already exist within your relationship. By focusing on both growth and gratitude, you can begin to shift the energy in your partnership.
Let’s Reconnect—Together
If you’re ready to feel closer, communicate better, and strengthen your relationship, couples counseling can help. I offer a free 15-30 minute consultation call so you can get a sense of my approach and ask any questions you have. From there, we provide online couples therapy in Washington for flexibility and comfort.
You can schedule your consultation directly through the contact page on my website. Let’s take the first step toward healing your relationship—together.
Integrating Proven Methods to Support Your Unique Relationship
Every couple is different—and I believe your therapy should be, too. In our work together, I tailor sessions to reflect your specific dynamic, communication patterns, and goals. I draw from two of the most respected and research-backed approaches to couples therapy: Gottman Method Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). Whether you're struggling with recurring conflict, emotional disconnection, or rebuilding trust, these evidence-based methods offer powerful tools to support meaningful change.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
As an informed EFT Couples Therapist, I help partners move beneath surface-level conflict to understand and reshape the emotional bonds that drive their interactions. EFT Couples Counseling focuses on fostering secure attachment, deepening emotional responsiveness, and creating new patterns of connection. This approach can be especially helpful for couples who feel stuck in cycles of misunderstanding or emotional withdrawal.
Gottman Method Couples Therapy
I also incorporate the structured, research-informed strategies of Gottman Couples Counseling. With the Gottman Method Couples Therapy, we work on strengthening the friendship at the heart of your relationship, improving communication skills, and managing conflict in healthy, productive ways. This method is particularly effective for building lasting tools you can use far beyond the therapy room.
Some couples come in specifically looking for EFT Couples Counseling or Gottman Couples Counseling, and I welcome that. We can certainly lean more heavily into either approach depending on your preferences. However, I’ve found that having the flexibility to draw from both EFT Couples Counseling and Gottman Method Couples Therapy allows us to create a process that truly fits your relationship—not a one-size-fits-all model. This integrative approach helps us focus on what matters most to you, at the pace and depth that feels right.