Couples Therapy

Across Seattle and the Great State of Washington

When your relationship begins to feel distant, more like coexistence than connection, it can be difficult to find your way back to each other. Couples therapy offers a private, supportive setting to understand what lies beneath the conflict, the silence, or the loss of intimacy.

With steady, thoughtful guidance, you and your partner can reconnect with clarity and begin rebuilding a more intentional closeness.

From unspoken turmoil, to renewed clarity

Strengthen your story, side by side

Relationship challenges are far more common than they seem, and even the strongest couples can feel strained by communication breakdowns, unresolved experiences, or major life transitions. Therapy provides a calm, neutral space to explore these patterns, understand unmet needs, and develop a more grounded way of relating.

With an attachment-informed lens, you can restore trust and cultivate a relationship that feels secure, connected, and deeply supported.

Tailored Care. Thoughtful Methods. proven transformTION.

Couples therapy offers a clear, structured path forward, one that helps you understand long-standing dynamics, strengthen communication, and rebuild the partnership you value. Through an integrative, personalized approach, you’ll learn practical tools and create new ways of engaging that honor both of your needs.

With the consistent support of a trained, professional marriage and family therapist, many couples find themselves rediscovering steadiness, intimacy, and a renewed sense of partnership.

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Have you and your partner been feeling more like roommates than romantic partners? Are conversations turning into conflicts, or worse, into silence? Do you find yourself wondering how things got so distant, and whether you can ever truly get back what you once had? Maybe it feels like you're speaking two different languages, no longer able to bridge the growing divide. You might be dealing with a breakdown in communication, lack of intimacy, or recurring arguments that never seem to resolve.
Couples therapy can help address these painful patterns. Many partners come to therapy hoping to improve connection and communication but aren’t sure how to start. Whether you're married, dating, committed partners, new parents, or navigating a major life transition, therapy with a licensed marriage counselor offers a supportive and inclusive space to unpack what's going on. Issues like trust concerns, parenting disagreements, and emotional distance can leave couples feeling disconnected and overwhelmed.
The good news is: You don’t have to stay stuck in this cycle. With the help of couples therapy in Seattle and across Washington and a trained marriage counselor, you can learn how to reconnect as a couple and feel close again.
Relationship challenges are far more common than most people think. Whether it’s caused by poor communication, unresolved trauma, or major life changes like having a baby or moving cities, these stressors can lead to breakdowns in intimacy and trust.
You're not alone in feeling this way. Every relationship has ups and downs. When two individuals with different backgrounds, experiences, and emotional needs come together, it’s natural for misunderstandings and tension to arise leading to attachment style therapy being a supportive place to explore these tensions. Many couples seek therapy because they’re tired of the same arguments or because they feel like something important has gone missing and couples therapy with an attachment based therapist can provide a deeper look into these challenges with the support of a trained couples and marriage counselor.
Even couples who love each other deeply can struggle to express themselves, navigate conflict, or understand their partner’s emotional needs. That doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed, it means it’s time to learn new tools and strategies that work with the help of an attachment based therapist. Couples therapy provides a safe and neutral place to explore these patterns without judgment, blame, or pressure.
The good news, however, is that with the help of a compassionate, experienced Seattle couples therapist, you can get back to feeling fulfilled and satisfied in your relationship.
Through couples therapy in Seattle and across Washington, Lumina Counseling supports partners in navigating the difficult dynamics that can build up over time with support from a Seattle marriage counselor. Whether you’re seeking to rebuild trust, resolve recurring conflict, or improve connection and communication, therapy provides a structured and non-judgmental space to do that work together with the support of an attachment based therapist.
My approach is integrative and responsive to your needs. I often draw from Solution-Focused Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the Gottman Method, and attachment theory to guide our work. These models help you not only understand your patterns but also learn actionable tools for strengthening your relationship. If you’re looking for a therapist specializing in attachment styles, we will dive into exploring your different styles, how you show up and respond to each other, and how to feel more aligned and connected.
In our first session, we’ll start with a joint intake to learn more about your relationship history, current challenges, and goals. From there, I often meet with each partner individually for a portion of a session to better understand both perspectives and dynamics. Ongoing couples therapy sessions are typically held weekly and last around 50 minutes.
We’ll explore your communication style, identify unhelpful patterns, and practice new ways of relating. As a Seattle marriage counselor, I frequently provide exercises both in and outside of session to help you apply what you’re learning in real-time. Whether it’s increasing emotional safety, expressing appreciation, or tackling hard conversations with greater compassion, you’ll leave each session with tools to build momentum. Diving into attachment theory with an attachment based therapist is an optional path that can, at times, provide deeper understanding to how you show up with each other in your relationship.
If you're struggling with parenting disagreements, we’ll work on understanding each other’s parenting values. If disconnection is the main concern, we may focus on increasing intimacy, both emotionally and physically. If you need help with communication in your relationship, we’ll explore where the breakdown is happening and find solutions. If you’re looking for a therapist specializing in attachment styles, we’ll explore your different styles and the root of how you respond to each other. The goal of couples therapy is not to assign blame but to restore alignment and build a stronger, more connected partnership.
Over time, couples or marriage counseling with a licensed marriage counselor helps you shift from reacting in frustration to responding with empathy. Instead of falling into the same conflicts, you’ll develop new scripts and strategies that foster understanding and closeness. This transformation doesn't happen overnight—but with commitment and support, it does happen, especially through the supportive space of relationship therapy for couples.
I’ve worked with couples from many different walks of life—married, dating, pre-marital, LGBTQ+, perinatal, and co-parenting pairs. My training as a licensed marriage and family therapist has given me a strong foundation in systems thinking and relationship dynamics which plays an integral part in attachment based therapy in couples therapy. Over the past four years, I’ve supported many couples in creating meaningful, lasting change. As a Seattle couples therapist, I offer unbiased support where both partners feel seen, heard, and respected.
With consistent effort and guidance, couples often find they not only improve connection and receive help with communication in their relationship, but also rediscover joy and intimacy in their relationship. If you’re ready to invest in your relationship, I’m here to help as a trained couples and marriage counselor. Couples therapy with an attachment based therapist can be the turning point that brings you back together.
Lumina Counseling provides online couples therapy in Seattle and across Washington to increase accessibility and support with the guidance of an attachment based therapist.

Common Questions and Concerns About Couples Therapy

It’s common for one partner to feel more ready than the other to enter into relationship therapy for couples. If your partner is hesitant, you can encourage them to attend just one session and see how it feels to work with a trained couples and marriage counselor. Sometimes, just showing up can shift perspectives. If they're still unsure, individual therapy can be a starting point until they feel comfortable to start couples therapy or attachment based counseling.
I offer virtual weekday sessions, making it easier for busy couples to fit therapy into their routine with a supportive marriage counselor. Many of my clients appreciate the flexibility and comfort of meeting from home. Investing just 50 minutes a week can lead to significant changes in how you relate to one another.
It’s never too late to seek support from a couples counselor or an attachment based therapist. Many couples wait until things feel unbearable, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be repaired. I’ve worked with couples who were on the brink of separation and helped them find a path forward. If you’re both open to trying, change is possible.
Not at all. While we will address pain points and challenges, couples therapy also helps you build on what’s working. I often highlight strengths, shared values, and moments of connection that already exist within your relationship. By focusing on both growth and gratitude, you can begin to shift the energy in your partnership.

Begin your journey

Start on the path towards deeper connection, enhanced communication, and restored intimacy. Couples therapy with a licensed marriage counselor offers a discreet, supportive space to do so. I invite you to schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation to explore my approach and discuss any questions you may have. From there, we offer online couples therapy across Seattle and Washington, designed for both privacy and convenience.

Your relationship is worthy of steadiness, closeness, and fulfillment. Take the first step forward together, side by side.

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Integrating Proven Methods to Support Your Unique Relationship

Every couple is different, and I believe your therapy should be too. In our work together, I tailor sessions to reflect your specific dynamic, communication patterns, and goals. As a couples and marital counselor, I draw from three of the most respected and research-backed approaches to couples therapy: Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), and Attachment-Based Couples Therapy . Whether you're struggling with recurring conflict, emotional disconnection, or rebuilding trust, these evidence-based methods offer powerful tools to support meaningful change.

As an informed EFT Couples Therapist, I help partners move beneath surface-level conflict to understand and reshape the emotional bonds that drive their interactions. EFT Couples Counseling focuses on fostering secure attachment, deepening emotional responsiveness, and creating new patterns of connection. With the support of a couples and marital counselor, this approach can be especially helpful for couples who feel stuck in cycles of misunderstanding or emotional withdrawal.
I also incorporate the structured, research-informed strategies of Gottman Couples Counseling. With the Gottman Method Couples Therapy, we work on strengthening the friendship at the heart of your relationship, improving communication skills, and managing conflict in healthy, productive ways. Many couples seeking Gottman Seattle support appreciate the practical, framework-based tools that help them understand each other more deeply. This approach can be especially grounding for couples who want clear guidance and evidence-based steps they can immediately apply at home, both during and after sessions. Whether you’re new to couples therapy or familiar with the Gottman Seattle method, these strategies offer a reliable path toward lasting change. This method is particularly effective for building lasting tools you can use far beyond the therapy room.
Learn more here about Gottman Method Couples Therapy.
Some couples come in specifically looking for EFT Couples Counseling or Gottman Couples Counseling, and I welcome that. We can certainly lean more heavily into either approach depending on your preferences. However, as a trained couples and martial counselor, I’ve found that having the flexibility to draw from both EFT Couples Counseling and Gottman Method Couples Therapy allows us to create a tailored process that truly fits your unique relationship. This integrative approach helps us focus on what matters most to you, at the pace and depth that feels right.
I integrate Attachment-based couples therapy into my work which offers a refined lens for understanding how early relational experiences quietly shape the way partners connect, protect, and respond to one another. By bringing awareness to attachment patterns, whether marked by anxiety, distance, or conflicting needs, couples gain clarity around recurring emotional cycles and moments of disconnection. Rather than assigning blame, this work fosters empathy, helping each partner understand what lives beneath reactivity, withdrawal, or heightened reassurance-seeking. Within a calm, contained therapeutic space, we slow these moments down, allowing both partners to explore their inner responses with greater emotional safety and intention. Over time, couples learn to recognize triggers sooner, communicate with steadiness, and respond in ways that strengthen security rather than activate old defenses. The result is a more grounded, responsive relationship, one rooted in trust, emotional attunement, and lasting connection.
Learn more here about Attachment Theory Couples Therapy.